pinging myself to respond latter, and to get other Orthodox thoughts on this.
"...and to get other Orthodox thoughts on this."
Thus far I think you are doing just fine, K. As to the question on the table, because there is no "consent" as such in the Orthodox Mystery of Marriage, I can't see where an annulment would situation would ever arise. Annulment is a juridicial concept and as such is alien to Orthodoxy. Capacity to freely "consent" to the sacrament isn't part of Orthodox understanding. You know, this consent idea crops up in other places. For example, giving communion to someone who does not understand the sacrament, like babies or persons with mental retardation or mental diseases. At any rate, for us I think calling a spade a spade is best. A divorce is just that, a divorce. Its not a good thing at all and while for us it may not involve legalistic considerations of contract/vow breaking, it certainly means breaching the bonds of the sacrament. For that matter, neither is remarriage after the death of a spouse. There is no "'til death do us part" vow in Orthodoxy. The Church however recognizes that human beings screw up big time and in this context it feels that allowing by the episcopal exercise of economia, a remarriage is less sinful than falling prey to fleshly temptations outside of marriage. It is for this reason that second marriages are penitential in nature and thrid ones positively funereal!