"like St. Paul , I'm not worried about hurting anyone's feelings"
Let's take just a few of examples from St. Paul's exhortations to his people:
"The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patient endurance, kindness, generosity, faith, mildness, and chastity. Against these there is no law."
"God chose us in Him before the world began, to be holy and blameless in His sight, to be full of love."
"Do nothing to sadden the Holy Spirit with whom you are sealed against the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, all passion and anger, harsh words, slander and malice of every kind. In place of these, be kind to one another, compassionate and mutually forgiving, just as God has forgiven you in Christ."
"Live a life worthy of the calling you have received, with perfect humility, meekness and patience, bearing with one another lovingly."
"Be imitators of God as his dear children. Follow the way of love, even as Christ loved you."
Do Paul's words sound like a man presenting a "girley" Jesus? No, he sounds like an Apostle who saw the Lord and understood one thing--that God, Who is a God of love, saved him.
Does St. John present a "girley" Jesus when he writes--?
"God is love, and he who loves is in God and God in him."
Amen. Good words for us all to live by.