Amen, absolutely right. Quix, I'm sorry if your experience with Calvinists has been to the contrary. I have never known or heard of any true Calvinist who held the views you describe. Since that attitude is 100% against Calvinism, perhaps the people you are thinking of aren't really Calvinists at all.
I'm not quite sure where you are in this discussion. I think POTS and OSAS are the same. As I see it the fundamental difference is "will" are we drawn to saving faith or do we choose saving faith. Either way we should be jumping up and down with joy. Saving Faith means your blessed with God's free gift of GRACE!
BTW: FK; I can't believe how diligent you are in responding to all posts. Feel free to skip mine if the discussion has moved on. :-)