Frank, I really can't make any sense of your citations. The Pharisees were EXACTLY the sort of folk who would deny people entrance to their homes because the potential guests didn't meet the definition of holiness as outlined in Jewish law.
Jesus is depicted as a "guru" who was really the first hippie by many. Little is mentioned about how often he spoke of hell or said "Woe to you" and meant it! Instead, everyone takes verses which seem to emphasize His total tolerance which was not His mission. He loved everyone and wants all to attain heaven but it is our choice. He died for us all but only "the many" choose to follow Him.
Here is just one article on Moral Theology. It is something we have lost as the society has consciously caused us to "accept" things which would have made us recoil in horror years ago.
The essence of the Gospel is Caritas: Love. That is, adoration of God and love of our neighbor. However, that does not mean blind acceptance of anything. Jesus loves the woman caught in adultery, but He told her "Neither do I condemn thee. Go and sin no more."
If you attend an event like that described which began this thread, and then left saying those words in total private to the individuals, you would be giving an example directly from the Gospel.
http://www.ewtn.com/library/THEOLOGY/COOPRTN.htm