Do you worship God or are creating a god in the image you find worthy of your worship? Whether or not God's plan is "fair" or not is not ours to determine, because we are not God.
I would be careful with Calvinism, it reminds me too much of Fred Phelps and his God Hates Fags idea.
If you see Calvinism in Phelps actions, you don't seem to have a clue about Calvinism.
Oh but I have a clue to what Calvinism is, friend. It was so depressing to hear the 5 points that the Lord had to tell me clearly that this is NOT from Him. He wants all people to be saved but some will reject Him.