The Orthodox look at the Catholic liturgy, the pantsuit nuns, the alter girls, the barren Protestant-like churches and say "What?" Then we read that there are forces (not small) in the current Latin Church that absolutely hate +BXVI and want the Traditional Latin Mass permanently banned.
Why would the Orthodox want a reunion with such a Church? It only serves to prove to them that the Schism was not about the East leaving the West but the other way around.
If there were genuine, rather thaaforced attempts to return Catholicism to its Patristic roots, there would be very little chest-thumping and fear among the Orthodox.
I certainly agree that in this present state the Catholic Church is not ready for reunification, precisely for the reasons you outlined.
If the Pope succeeds in regularizing SSPX and restoring proper, distinctly Latin liturgy, then the road will be much clearer. At this point the best anyone can do is to build up mutual good will.