[kosta50]

A reiteration: It's caring about someone else more than you care about [a form of] self-pleasure

Grasping at straws. People feel good when they care whatever they care for. They love it. No matter how you turn it around, there is self-pleasure involved in caring.

[D-fendr]

Caring=attach importance or value to. Caring more for someone else than your own pleasure = attach importance or value to someone else than your own pleasure.

[D-fendr]

Prediction: Next you will be defining “hurt” as pleasure.