When you talk about someone, you’re supposed to use enough FReeper etiquette and ping them.
And GailA volunteered nothing that indicated that she knew beforehand that he was abusive.
Point number two in verga’s post was pure speculation on his part. It was totally uncalled for, so, yes, he did accuse her of something of which her had no knowledge, blaming her for marrying a man she knew was abusive. And it remains despicable that he would blame the victim.
I did ping her, to say other wise is for you to bear false witness
And GailA volunteered nothing that indicated that she knew beforehand that he was abusive.
She didn't have to "volunteer" it, I have worked with more than enough abuse "victims" (Male and Female) to know that each and every one of them knew long before they got married, exactly what they were in for.
There are true victims of abuse, they get out after the very first incident. She didn't there fore she gave tacit approval of the abuse.
Point number two in verga’s post was pure speculation on his part. It was totally uncalled for, so, yes, he did accuse her of something of which her had no knowledge, blaming her for marrying a man she knew was abusive. And it remains despicable that he would blame the victim.
Your correct if I was not an expert on abusive situations it would be speculation, the problem is that I have been dealing with it in adults and children male and female for about 15 years.
The problem is that you are so blinded by hatred for the Catholic Church, that you will believe anything nasty about her so that you can attack. This is the part where you say, "Whoa, that Verga is one smart dude, I better apologize and try to make things right."
First of all, I don’t need lessons on FReeping from the likes of you. Who I ping or don’t ping, and why, is my business, not yours.
Second, as with all carnal people, you can’t see anything but your favorite issue...that of being a victim flack. Abuse was never the point of my post.
“Abuse” in this case is a red herring, as leaving a bad marriage is nothing new to Catholicism. Any Christian worthy of the name, Catholic or otherwise, knows marrying another while the original spouse lives constitutes adultery.
THAT is the crux of the matter, AND what was “volunteered.” To try to make anything else the focus of attention is prima facie evidence of duplicity...and I don’t worry about “etiquette” when referring to those who are double-dealing.