From personal experience (and plenty of it), you don’t deal with it — God does. You can’t (we just don’t have the mental and emotional capacity to deal with some of it). Every time the thought pops into your head, you turn it over to God and go on. In time, you’ll find you can’t even frown over it. It goes away. At that point, you can actually pray earnestly for the other person and in time you might even understand why and be able to shrug it off. Then, go out and get active in something that makes you happy. It works. I give to charity, I work on campaigns, I find other people who fill the voids left by those loved and lost.
Seriously, there’s no use in trying to do it on your own. Some hurts and pain are too great. Some losses are too large. Some wounds require major miracles and, luckily for you, God is in the business of major miracles. How great is that?
Wonderful post. Yes, the healing of a hurt is in God’s hands.
Unfortunately, many of us forget to ask God for help in these things and try to do it ourselves. Like you said — it’s God that does the healing.
I liked what you said about going out and getting active in something.
Sometimes I think it is in the giving of ourselves that we forgive.
Look at the example of Christ washing the feet of the apostles, even Judas Iscariot, and know that Judas was going to betray him. Christ forgave him by being a servant to Judas. Powerful, very powerful image.
And then we have the image of Christ on the Corss saying, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”
If we poor humans could just soak up these two lessons from Jesus Christ himself!!!