I don’t really see how true forgiveness takrs place without the other person asking for, unless you define it as not caring how the other person gets on. I read that somewhere in connection with some person talking about a cheating spouse.
I’m sorry for what happened to you, and agree that it is easier when you are still enduring suffering. I got to feeling better about it when I figured out a way to even the score. Once I knew that I could, I could choose not to do so. I recovered power over the situation.
It took me 3 years to reach that point, and eight more years have passed. I don’t think about it much anymore, but that person had better never need my aid for any problem, no matter how serious.
Not that that’s likely to happen.