No, I don’t fully understand that. I was baptized Catholic and a lot of my family are Catholic. I’d prefer to have someone in the faith explain that to you. Just as I don’t believe that people who committ suicide go to hell and I don’t believe that babies who die before being baptized go to hell.
On the other hand, as you’ve noticed, I don’t like it when Christians skewer fellow Christians for one thing about a faith that they don’t understand.
I’ll let someone else answer your question. I’m glad you don’t think Catholics are damned.
The Lord that I serve makes the decision as to who is damned and who is not. I would be arrogant indeed to step into his sandles. If you name the name of Christ, I'm for you. I don't believe you have to be right on everything to be saved. If you believe on the Name of the Lord Jesus Christ you are saved. I think believe in Christ as God (thus the virgin birth) is a non-negotiable. Belief in the trinity is hard to get around.
Past that, we work out our own salvation. God sits on the throne, who am I to judge?