Your story shows that churches aren’t teaching very well what love is - it is not just a feeling. It is not passive.
Falling in love is emotional, but Love is an act of the will.
>>Your story shows that churches aren’t teaching very well what love is - it is not just a feeling. It is not passive.<<
Well, at that same church I was taught that love is a decision and an action. I say to this day that everyone is loveable and hateable. How you choose to “see” them is completely up to you. And when you marry them you make a committment to “love” them.