So I don't know if I'm entirely wrong or not. All I have to go by are what I've read of how it was in the past. Many marriages were contractual; some father's respected their daughter's wishes, and some didn't. Since I didn't live in those times, I can only glean little of what was discussed privately, what women knew, and how they came to know it.
I'll be brutally blunt. There are marriages where either the wife cannot achieve an orgasm, sometimes not at all, and husbands who are physically incapable or know how to satisfy their wives or partners sexually.
None of which have anything to do with what the church teaches.
Question, do you see the highest good in marriage, ‘achieving orgasm?’