Posted on 09/16/2011 8:11:02 PM PDT by Salvation
Video is at the site. Click on the title link.
Feelings are neither right nor wrong. It’s OK to grieve. It’s OK to cry. It’s OK to be angry.
It’s what we do with those feelings that is important.
Discussion Ping. Any thoughts you would like to share?
This program also sponsors discussion groups, teen weekends, young adult weekends to deal with griefl.
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This program also sponsors children’s weekends for dealing with the loss of a parent whether through death or divorce.
Thanks for posting this. At a meeting of the pro-life group at our parish, I was told of a fellow member who lost a son unexpectedly 2 years ago at the age of 30. Her grief does not seem to diminish and she has become quite depressed over it. I will re-read this later and see if I can find some help in it for Rita.
I grieve my only son lost to me seven years ago. Grieving is not a formulaic thing to be mastered and overcome. It becomes part of who I am and who I will be — it is present always and each day offers up the gift of memory — some joyous and full of grace, some regretful and full of despair. It is Christ alone who accompanies me on this journey with grief, until that day (for which I pray) that I will be reunited with my son. Pax et bonum.
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Losing a child is so hard. I can’t even imagine it. So sorry for your loss. But you are on the right track. Do check out that linked ministry though.
It’s modeled after the Marriage Encounter weekend except those griefing share in small groups.
“I’m not so good right now, but I’ll be better soon.”
That is Grace defined. Thank you for posting this.
You’re so welcome, FRiend.
Grief is a gift in hurtful package. Yes, meditation (fasting, prayer,etc) helps. It does not heal. Maybe it’s supposed to. Maybe not. I’ve been stricken a few too many times to believe it a coincidence. It does make me more understanding, and forgiving.
Grief is a measure of a mix of several things.
How much you loved what you are grieving over.
How much you valued what you are grieving over.
How much you miss what you are grieving over.
It’s intensified if you were in charge of taking care of them, and/or feel responsible in some way for their loss.
Hugs and prayers sent.
Not only grief coming from the death but also grief coming from dealing with one’s own health and health issues. I have ostroarthritis and is doing PT twice a week. Had an “emotional meltdown” over spilled coffee yesterday coming out from the supermarket.
I have struggled with grief since 1995. My mother, my father, and then, my husband, all died within 3 years. My parents lived with us and I was their caregiver. I started going to bereavement groups after my mother’s death and did 3 consecutive groups after my husband died, but nothing helped. I couldn’t stay in that house anymore and went to live with one of my sons and his family. When he was deployed to Japan, my sister conned me into moving back to my hometown. I went from church to church, tried psychotherapy, etc. Finally, I was able to live alone again, and have been living alone (with my precious dog) for 10-11 years. Grief is hell. The only good thing to come out of all this grief is that I converted to Catholicism and have finally found peace. God bless all of you FRiends on this long, sad, oh-so-personal journey.
God bless you. I can’t begin to imagine your pain.
Since the sudden and unexpected death at Christmas of my beloved spouse of 40 years, I have had to come to grips with the fact that I am in control of very little. I have always tended to be somewhat of a control freak and was constantly full of plans and ways to control the outcome of life.
All those plans seemed so good that I was sure they had to be willed by God, well I guess they weren’t. Now I am being carried along in a rapid stream in a completely different direction and I just have to trust in the Lord, that He is in control. But even putting trust in the Lord isn’t all that easy and I have to ask Him for help everyday.
Grief doesn’t really lessen; it seems that the way you experience it just changes from day to day.
Grief doesn’t really lessen; it seems that the way you experience it just changes from day to day.
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A very wise statement.
I lost one of my sons in 2009. He was 2 months shy of his 33rd birthday.
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Everyone expresses their grief differently. Some seem to be uneffected by the events that cause grief. I am concerned about those who seem uneffected.
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