A lot of why men stay away is that the church is compromised. We teach accomodation, instead of protection.
If the church would quit compromising with the world and would work to protect doctrine, men would return.
We need to have church warriors if we want men to be in the church.
I am sure that is part of it.
But, as a kid my parents sent us off to Catholic School, morning mass etc. Come Sunday, Mom would go with us to mass, but Dad never showed up in church. Never...and yet he was the one ‘forcing’ us to go.