Look, I have been an active member of the LDS Church for 41 uears. I have lived in probably 15 different wards and visited many, many more.
I am sorry for the experiences you describe, but having served in Bishoprics, and numerous other callings, and having myself been all over the country attending various wards, what I told you is not just the “party line”...it is the way it works in the vast, vast majority of cases.
No one is trying to “trick” or “fool” anyone.
I am sorry you and yours had different experiences, but what you describe is a very small minority, and I have never witnessed anything like it, or heard of the types of abuse and misdirection you speak of.
I’m not saying it never happens...any organization composed of millions of people will have folks, even who get into leadership, who do wrong.
I find it interesting that when I tell you my personal experience with mormonISM you go to great lengths to explain that it is not the norm, so at what point when dozens of people tell you similar experiences across the country you finally start to wonder what is really going on? Or will you continually say, well I have never heard of such a thing or that is not the norm or whatever.
Jeff it is the norm, that is the problem mormonISM is not what it appears to be. Open you eyes.....
Speaking of LEADERS...
Referring to the things said by MORMON leaders, shown in reply #22.
Are they RIGHT, or are they WRONG?