Jesus did a lot of things that “just weren’t done” back in that day. Things that got Him into a world of trouble, which He knew would happen (of course).
We just have to agree to disagree. The Bible gives specific names of people throughout the New Testament,but for the “disciple whom Jesus loved” the Bible chooses not to reveal who that person is— by what right do we name that person when the Bible choses to keep him/her anonymous? Or that the person chosen by Jesus to take care of his mother was John? From what the Gospels said, none of the original 11 were around at the crucifixion, having gone into hiding. Curiouser and Curiouser.
Jesus was true to the law == honor your father and mother.