“who consented”
She didn’t have a choice.
And Joseph was her rightful husband, in no way denied his right to her.
???
A key difference beween the True God, and, on the other hand, the pagan gods and the Islamic Allah, is that God endowed His rational creatures --- humans --- with the capacity for choice, and He always respects that capacity.
There were a LOT of pagan gods who supposedly procreated by taking human consorts, and they took them by trickery or force. Zeus and Leda, Apollo and Daphne, Pan and Echo: rape, rape, rape.
Then here's Allah, who loves not freedom, but rather Kismet and Qadar, Fate and the Inexorable. He never really created other wills, his is the only will in the Universe; and consequently he treats people like robots, puppets. Muhammad was no more a knowing willing being, than a ventriloquist's dummy. Allah commands "recite," and Muhammad recites something that didn't even pass through his brain. He babbles out the Quran, and knows not what he spoke.
To hell with them.
The True God, by contrast, created true personal beings with wills of their own. To us he says "choose" and we can actually choose. Like Christ, we can say "Not my will but thine be done," because our will and God's will are both real.
That is why it must be a misstatement to say Mary didn't have a choice. It makes God out to be something like Zeus, a rapist; or Allah, a despot served by androids.
Of course Mary had a choice. It's not for nothing that she said, "Be it done unto me according to Thy will." If she didn't have a choice, then she would have been of a lower order of being than any Israelite to whom God says, "Refuse evil and choose the good," or "Choose life," or "Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve." Without choice, she'd have been either a stupid puppet or a battered victim.
But thank God, the true God doesn't deal with people that way. God is good.