The call goes out to everyone (free offer of the Gospel).
God's people respond. Those who do not are left to perish in their sins but nonetheless culpable as per Luke 12:47: "And that servant, which knew his lord's will, and prepared not himself, neither did according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes."
Election isn't to give fear to God's people but rather comfort. Nonetheless, the doctrine is justly terrifying to those who hear and harden themselves. Take comfort, therefore, if you are shaken by the awesome majesty of our King's sovereignty in election that you, too, are numbered among His elect if you are in Christ Jesus.
Thats right. Amen.
I don't think I've ever met a Calvinist who didn't think he/she was elect.
Could God change His mind about you?
:)