Will not be tolerated by whom? Sure looks like it's more than tolerated, it's overlooked, winked at - especially if you're a politician or heavy donor to the Catholic Church. When the Catholic Church actually starts putting teeth behind their barking threats, that's all it will be - barking.
You express a legitimate complaint. One of the secondary consequences of that is that every lapsed or CEO (Christmas & Easter Only) Catholic expects to be accommodated to the same degree that Ted Kennedy, Joe Biden and Nancy Pelosi have been. When they are not they perceive it as the CHurch being cold and insular. This is an issue that must be resolved by the bishops, not the clergy and laity at the parish level. As St. Athanasius said in the fourth century; "The floor of hell is paved with the skulls of bishops".
Peace be to you