It was a “hard saying” when Jesus said it in real life, too :-).
I’m puzzled by some of the responses on this thread.
I’m wondering if they are only thinking of the “eros” love, rather than “agape” love of “philo” love??
I may not like the way my neighbor behaves (getting drunk every weekend, for example) but that does not mean I can’t have a brotherly “philo” love for him — and maybe some day talk about the neighbor’s drinking habits and family life with him.