You know the 50 shades of trouble you'd be in if you said that now...
When the Supervisors etc were getting in trouble for compliments as well as innuendos, I just took the tack of NOT speaking to anyone in the office - Unless I was spoken to first. Wasn’t to hard for me as I didn’t work in the office but I was a General Superintendent in the field and spent a lot of time in the office. So now I am saying NOTHING, if you said ‘Good Morning’, I would respond, if you asked me a question, I would politely answer it. NO comments on the weather, work, life etc etc...
You can't be too careful. Nuking it from orbit is the only way to be sure.
Word came down ‘they’ thought I was creating ‘hostile environment’ so I just didn’t come to the office till after everyone left or before they came in. If the owners ‘beckoned’ me to the office, I would invite him(them) to lunch.
I don't know what the lunch part means, but they can't be too surprised when you decide to make yourself scarce. They created the environment that is hostile to you. All you have to do is remind them of the good times that could be had with a return to your more gregarious ways (in a "non-threatening" manner, of course).
I don’t know what the lunch part means,
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The ‘lunch’ was just a throw in. The reason I spent ANY time around there prior was to keep THEM informed of how their company was doing and apprised what we would be doing..
I just got to the point where I didn’t want to be ‘around’ anyone and ‘invited’ them to ‘my office’ out in the field where the ‘fish were biting’ Guess that will upset a PETA type...<; <: <: .
I am renting from a friend of mine (USMC RET) and before I moved in was talking to his wife and made some kind of statement like “They don’t call it Black Friday for nothing” or something along that line.
She informed me that she had been raised in a Marine household and bases etc, and had heard all the snide racial, sexual etc remarks she could use for a lifetime.
She started to name off a few (to show how worldly?) and when she got to “Irish Pennants”
I jumped in with “Do you mean Irish Penance?” “That is when you are ordered to say a prayer before, during and after drinking”.
She looked me straight in the eye and said “NO!— IRISH PENNANTS”
....I made/make it a point to speak when spoken to in regards to her and never comment on anything.
You Sea Service Types know what ‘Irish Pennants’ are (at least those from ‘my’ era) and I never took it ‘personal’ or figured anything Racial or Ethnic involved.