[terycarl]

And do you think you have more authority than the Priest?

I have been goimg to confession for 69 years....NEVER has the priest suggested that I use my own conscience as arbiter for the sin....unfortunately....I was always advised on what the rules were and that I must abide by them....a sin is a sin....you don't get to use a lax conscience to justify wrongdoing.

[Kansas58]

Have you ever had to say, “The ex is nuts, she might do harm to herself or others if I request a formal annulment, I know that she told friends and other family members that she married me to get out of the house, as her mother was certifiably insane and violent. It is not appropriate to stir the pot with a formal annulment. I know now that the marriage was not valid. I intend to live my life accordingly”
The Priest then asks, perhaps, about relations with other women, now, out of wedlock.
You then ask the Priest if he would marry you.
The Priest, most likely, will consider the request.
And if you must get married in a Civil ceremony, after this Confession?
The Priest will, most likely, still serve Communion to you.
You are, frankly, not qualified to comment on the decision of the person involved, or the Priest. The above scenario, or something close to it, happens thousands of times every year within the Church.