I am convinced that the sex drive is very powerful still in the married. Therefore, they say no all the time to sex.
However, and this is a huge difference with the gays, Since natural sex is potentially procreative that means it is following the design made by God, The Great Designer.
Homosexual sex, on the other hand, is potentially deadly, and that means it is contrary to design and unnatural.
Homosexuals, both male and female, have much shorter lifespans than do heterosexuals, with males by a couple decades... living lives full of disease: biological and psychological.
So, we who care about them are the ones who tell them to change their behavior via grace & control.
I'm not sure what you mean by this. Could you expand on this thought a little?