I believe the accuser was none other than Judas himself...
“that perfume could have been sold and the money given to the poor (or found its way into my pocket)”
Yes, I suppose they don’t have bigger issues in their lives. They used to call them busibodies.
Me, I don’t worry at all what other people do with their money — as long as they didn’t use my money for something other than intended.
But no matter what, there will always be a critic standing on the sidelines, ready to pounce. It seems to be driven by maybe greed, or jealousy, or a controlling and critical personality. Maybe with a bit of self-righteousness mixed in — because they always know how it should have been handled.