The older one's dating experiences have mostly been really bad (sometimes downright strange, like the girl who invited him home to meet her parents, then treated him like a pariah from the moment she picked him up at the airport ?!?), and I think he really doesn't have much enthusiasm left for the dating process.
The other one is a freshman bball player at a small Catholic college. Sweet boy, smart, wants to be a doctor. He doesn't talk about dating much, but if there were someone very special in his life, we'd know about it.
It's sad. This generation seems to have a real problem forming real relationships -- girls just as much as boys.
I have two sons, 21 & 16. They don’t date either. The girls seem to be either really sexually aggressive or don’t value men.
This includes church girls. Those that aren’t super aggressive are apparently dating Jesus. This is a southern baptist but even there the feminazi’s have had their effect.
Well, it takes two to tango. So, no matter how ready your son might be, he does need a worthwhile counterpart.
All I can say is, don't give up! Keep looking for and asking out young ladies who appear eligible! Enjoy the company of those who are nice but not quite right, and gather up as good story-telling the material the ones who are less enjoyable!
My son had first dates with some considerable number of young ladies his freshman year. But I don't recall ever hearing about a second date with any of them. He threw a lot of fish back into the sea. Perhaps he benefited from uniformly low expectations. He had a nice enough time with some of them, but didn't expect much, and though a few of the ladies seemed to welcome a second date, he wasn't sufficiently motivated to follow through with any of them.
But, since everyone knew the rules upfront, since everyone knew he/she would be sleeping alone that night after the date, that there was no chance of anything beyond an invitation for a second date, there was no pressure, and my son enjoyed a lot of these dates, even though they ultimately went nowhere. Even, I think, with the goofier young ladies.
I think he also benefits being at a large, secular college in a substantial metropolitan area with a lot of large (and smaller) colleges. Ironically, he has dated few, if any, Catholic girls. He reports to me that most of them are pretty scary.
“This generation seems to have a real problem forming real relationships — girls just as much as boys.”
I agree. My son benefits from having little fear of rejection, and from having little regard for other folks’ social conventions.
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