(All the data below is self-reported data from Charity Navigator)
Note that Catholic Relief Services gets over 60% of their funding from government sources
Take a look at some of these local Catholic Charities' funding sources:
Catholic Charities Atlanta:
New Orleans:
East Bay (Oakland, etc):
Spokane:
And the winner (so far as I've seen), San Francisco:
Now, don't get me wrong, there are a few local diocesan Catholic Charities that do not take government funding. But they are the exception rather than the rule.
And keep in mind that many of the local Catholic Charities (to include DC, NYC, and Boston) don't even participate in Charity Navigator...so I shudder to think how much of their funding comes from the government.
The trouble is that when the government is so deeply embedded in the funding stream for these organizations, this is, of course, going to impact how they view the world. If you look at the political positions taken by CRS or Catholic Charities, they always oppose any kind of brakes being put on by Congress to bring spending under control. And, considering where they get their money, of course that would be the case.
The other thing with government funding is that a stipulation provided is that they have to provide services (including, in your case, counseling services) without regard to the religion of the person to whom they provide the service and with no religious content provided to that client. So, again, looking at your situation, rather than receiving the spiritual direction you needed, you got what was essentially secular psychological counseling.
This is not an apology for Catholic Charities. It is a condemnation. These agencies have made the foundational mistake of yoking themselves to unbelievers and being dragged down the road of perdition where they are being led by their secular sugar daddies.
There are a few examples where the Church has reigned in Catholic Charities. In Southern Illinois, faced with a rebellion on the part of the employees, the bishops cut them off. In Boston and DC (to the bishops' credit and my surprise), they stopped performing adoption work altogether. But those are the exception and only happened because Sugar Daddy (a/k/a the government) pushed a little too hard too fast.
I absolutely refuse to give one red cent to Catholic Charities USA, Catholic Relief Services, and my local diocesan Catholic Charities. The reason: they are little more than government social service agencies and, thank you very much, I already pay enough in taxes. My money will go to something else that is not so dependent. Like, for example, the Little Sisters of the Poor...who take NO government money for their important mission.
I would encourage my fellow Catholic FReepers to think hard before supporting these quasi-government agencies through second collections or mail-based fundraising drives.