I don't care for the couple at all, but you don't know what's going on in their private lives.
You’re not me; but you’re free to asks the AM whatever you want.
Go for it! Others have.
They have chosen to make their lives public:
https://www.osv.com/OSVNewsweekly/Article/TabId/535/ArtMID/13567/ArticleID/16071/Wisconsin-couple-to-participate-in-synod.aspx