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It’s not easy for women, either! What was said above can person to a wife as well as a husband, and even top those who are single.

Each of us is called to chastity according to our state in life. Since this also includes impure thoughts, a person has to really work at keeping ideas, and sometimes people, out of their stream of consciousness.

A sense of humor sometimes helps here. So does having a “buddy” you can talk to who will help you get your mind off things: real friends who are fighting the same battle, and understand. And, no kidding, a couple of friends and I came up with an idea we called “The Toad Tank”: a list of men we would not want to be physically intimate with under any circumstances- public figures, no personal attacks. Hitler was our most-used amphibian, on such a multitude of levels, he could have qualified as a bull frog. Sounds strange, but it worked! We’d laugh, converse, discuss, solve the world’s problems, and it would pass. We helped one another, and God helpled us.

Call a friend; talk about anything that will get your mind off things. Go to Confession, and talk to the priest: tell him you’re trying your best and you need the Grace of the Sacrament to strengthen you. Don’t be embarrassed; the more grace you recieve, the more strength you will have to avoid sins of impurity.

The advice given in the article rings true for anyone trying to maintain chastity, whatever their state in life. Put a link to it and other faith sites in big icons on your desktop. And let us pray one for another!
God bless you and keep you in His care!