Just because they were Apostles didn't mean they didn't have families or family life. Recall that John was given the responsibility by Christ Himself as He hung on the cross to take care of His mother. He could hopefully do that while taking care of his Apostolic duties.
Church leaders didn't start being celibate for centuries after Christ and the practice wasn't codified until the 12th century. Marriage was normal. I don't think homosexual activity was a problem with church leadership until the codification of celibacy. I do wish The Church would get rid of the practice.
Luke 18:28
Then Peter said: Behold, we have left all things, and have followed thee.