That is emphasized again and again in this book of the children’s first hand experiences.
In the work that I do, I can tell if the parents got divorced, who the child lived with, and who they blamed for the divorce, just by walking through the soul of the grown up child of the divorce.
The absolute worse case was when a couple from my church divorced and their young son shot and killed himself. Both the parents and the children were great people. I knew them all very well and it was a shock to all.