Sorry, she’s just not too bright period going on Ellen was a dumb move, and the venues she picks open her up to these questions. And her desire to be popular with the Ellen crowd and the pop culture crowd will always lead her to say the most lukewarm thing. I Think Jesus said something about lukewarm water.
How do you know she’s just trying to be popular with the Ellen crowd? You don’t, but you assumed that anyway.
As Christians, we are commanded to make disciples of the lost, and not merely condemn them and those who reach out to them, as you are doing.
I find your attitude naive, smug, and legalistic.