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Dysfunctional Men

Arlene Peck takes dead aim.

I've always said the Italian mothers and Jewish mothers came from the same cloth. Oh, there might be a few differences like, Catholic Shame and Jewish Guilt. But, when you come down to it, they're pretty much the same. But, what about the Arab mothers? I wonder what kind of influence harvests a child for profit to kill himself and anyone else within a fifty yard radius in order to go to heaven to be a martyr. I've seen videos of those 'camps' where three year old babies are dressed in army fatigues and march around holding guns while mommy beams. Later, when they get to the fourth grade or so, they have school plays and again, mommy is fastening his 'suicide belt' while clapping how wonderful he is in making the choice to be a "suicide bomber" Hey, we know her baby boy is in training to be a murderer but, do you think his mother actually believes that he's going to make the whole family proud? Not to mention putting several thousand dollars in the family coffers.

But, what makes men freaks like that? Why don't any other cultures strive to kill themselves in their efforts for a better life? As a mother, I've always believed that mommy is the guiding light for the kind of man her baby boy is going to turn out to be. Did you ever wonder why these people are such a violent culture? What makes them a people who seem to have no reverence for life? Why do they harbor what seems to be a bottomless hatred for everyone else's?

I've traveled to many Islamic countries, Lebanon, Egypt, Jordon and Turkey to name a few. One of the things that struck me odd was how women were rarely seen. In the evenings, women were never walking on the streets. However, the sidewalks were filled with men. Men who seemed to have nothing to do but sit in coffee houses and play back gammon and smoke. Many times I would see men walking with their arms locked around each others waist while walking which struck me as kind of odd. Women were out of sight and out of touch. The male bonding, to me, looked like a trip to West Hollywood.

After looking into the results from being socially segregated from women, many have obviously turned into homosexual behavior. A word incidentally which is not even in the Arab language. The reason behind this, I've been told is because since there are no available women around they turn to other males, usually boys, or effeminate men, to have sex. Amazingly this is seen as some sort of accepted social norm. In their twisted minds, they somehow rationalize this sick behavior as not emasculating the young boy because he is not yet a man. No wonder they are totally confused because the Koran is against any homosexual relationship and gay Muslims remain fearful. This, eventually, I think, leads to anger. But, beneath it all is the unnaturalness of it all. Repressing and suppressing and punishing natural emotions are good enough reason for making them sick and sadistic.

Then I found out that throughout the Islamic Middle East, they are taught at a very early age that it is vital to be opposed to pleasure, especially if it concerns anything sexual. No wonder they go to mosque five times a day. Since they are raised that it is forbidden to touch women, these guys aren't even supposed to look at them. Sex before marriage is punishable as a criminal offense. They don't have to depend on cold showers. All they have to remember that at the very least, if caught, they receive a severe beating. Hey, some even die over the 'crime' of premarital sex. These guys are so warped that their culture teaches that women's sexuality and social independence could destroy what passes as their 'male supremacy'. So, they must be controlled at all cost. The frustration that they walk around under is so deep-seated that it emerges as a violent form of misogyny.

No wonder they run around the streets screaming by the hundreds of thousands having regular 'day of rage'. You would to if you were raised believing that getting it on with another male is a manifestation of male power which somehow makes you 'hyper-masculine and you are supposed to achieve your highest pleasure through violent domination.

Of course, nobody talks about this issue. And, in doing so, legitimizes this. Hey, how many articles do you read about 'honor killings" of women family members who might have done something to dishonor her family like see a man without their permission. Or, how about female circumcision? By not bringing their despicable behaviors into the open, it allows their victims, who are the young Arab boys to become invisible. So, is it any wonder that these dysfunctional men walk around the rest of their life trying to recover from sexual abuse and hating the world? Usually their way of recovery is by abusing even younger males since women are hated in their world. The core of their Arab masculinity is centered into hurting other by violence and hate. Mommy isn't much help either so she becomes just another one who threatens what's left of their masculine order.

Hey, I'm sorry about their society not seeing their sexual exploitation as being anything wrong. I even find it sad that they are traumatized by the lack of dignity that they are allowed and will spend the rest of their lives having days of rage. However, I'd rather see it be at those responsible and not their neighbors, the Jewish State. In the male Arab mind, their way of retaliation is to strike out as terrorists as their way to humiliate the foreign 'enemy' in the way as they have been. This of course, means violence in as vicious a way as possible.
Personally, I think it would be better for them to take more cold showers as a way of releasing their sexual energy. With all that testosterone running loose and no logical outlet it usually ends up on a Jerusalem bus.

Recently, the LA Times ran a column about a group, Al-Fatiha which helps Muslim Gays. "Al-Fatiha, with chapters in Los Angeles and other big cities, gives them a place to come to terms with hostility toward homosexuals." It seems that if they are caught in their hometowns being 'gay' they also get killed. So, "some gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender Muslims are finding a safe haven in this group which was founded in 1998 to support those who want to reconcile their sexual orientation with Islam."

The more I've learned about the Arab culture, the more I appreciate the men here. No longer will I complain that all the men I meet in Los Angeles are gay, married or dead....sometimes all three! :)