So many subtle things elude me because (A) I'm a guy, and (B) I'm caught up in the moment. But now I notice more clearly that [SPOILERS] Aragorn puts on Boromir's wristguards after he falls, and that Aragorn wears Arwen's necklace. I noticed too the designs on Boromir's clothes, marking him as upper-class.
I remember my Josiah's (6) first watching. He did know the story, and I'm sure that helped. But I was concerned for him during the tenser scenes, and covered his eyes three times.
But one of the first tenser scenes is where the 5 Nazgul confront the hobbits on Weathertop. The hulking figures close in on the little circled hobbits, holding out their little swords...
... and Josiah leans over to me and whispers, "Red alert!"
Dan
I've only been five times, but one of my sisters has been 8 or 9 times! Of course, she's still being homeschooled so has more free time than I do off at college.
I'm lucky - my Dad was a huge Tolkien fan and so I always had someone to talk to, though I don't suppose my comments, as an 11-year-old, really were that intuitive. Now both my little sisters love LotR, and all my friends are obsessed too! I tell you, it's a great time to be a fan. You think Mr. HobbitholeBoy will give tours if you ask him nicely?
Do you notice that Arwen puts the necklace in Aragorn's hand and he doesn't even realize it at first and looks to her...ahem, well the place it previously was and sees that it's not there now?
Did you notice that Boromir kneels before Merry and Pippin for a minute, while defending them? This is just after he cursed them (Frodo and all the halflings), but has a change of heart.
Matthew is much the same in his response. He's six too, you know and hides his face during the bad parts. I just can't justify waiting for him to see it till I can edit it, because it's so beautiful on that big screen. I will edit it onto a VHS tape, when it comes out on DVD, taking out the gruesome parts, so that Joshua (the three year old) can watch. He already has a dime-store ring that he wears around...it's pretty funny.