"Especially around the wrong kind of woman."
I guess I'm the "wrong kind" of woman for you. I've always been one to think that the need of being controlled is a rather negative one. But hey, whatever works for you and yours... Being "controlled" just ain't my cup of tea. Do you have lots of growth in your relationships with the women you "control"?
I'll say it again: If a man feels a woman needs controlling, she's not worth the bother.
It's best to leave her to find someone who naturally behaves the way a woman should behave.
To do otherwise is more bother than any woman is worth.