If you are referring to me, I can assure you my kids weren't coddled growing up. They were made to be responsible and in fact, where a site MORE responsible at 14 or 15 than they are now in their 20's. When I said my kids wanted for nothing, I meant things kids SHOULD have, like a roof over their heads, food, doctors, clothes, etc, things that my husband and I didn't have a lot of the time. We decided that we would not have children if we could not afford to give them at least a decent living. I doubt that means they were spoiled.
I have every faith that they will grow up, even though they might need to spend some time living under a bridge to get it.
Yes I was referring to you, and I'm sorry I misread your intent with the phrase "wanted for nothing." I would agree with others that have observed that drugs and alcohol are potent enough sabotage anyone's best efforts at parenting. It sounds like you're doing the right things for them and hopefully they will choose a different path soon.