I believe the Catholic Church does not condemn being gay as sinful -- it is acting upon one's homosexual tendencies by engaging in sexual relations that is considered sinful.
I've come across a few men in my time that I thought had to be gay, but they never had partners. They were fine in my eyes as well as in good standing with their churches.
One confusing thing is that the gay movement encourages everybody who experiences same-sex attraction to define themselves as "gay," indeed to believe that "gay" is their very identity.
I personally do not believe there is any such thing as a gay "identity." Same-sex attraction is just a tendency to a certain kind of temptation, just as EVERYBODY --- because of innate personality traits ---- has a tendency to certain types of temptations.
But we don't DEFINE ourselves by our temptations. I don't call myself a "fornicat-a-sexual" because I was strongly tempted to fornication before marriage.
People don't call themselves "adulter-a-sexuals" because they are tempted to desire somebody else's spouse.
You don't claim that your temptations are your "core self."
And temptations are not sins. Scripture says "Jesus was tempted in every way that we are, and yet did not sin."
Tempted in EVERY way. Thank of that!!
God grant us a merciful healing of ALL our disorders.
May God grant me, and all sinners, a spirit of true repentance, and the joy of His salvation.
Mrs. Don-o