Two months before my wedding, I got "cold feet." Instead of running off and letting my fiancee be considered in an unsavory light and putting my family through hell, I sat down with my soon-to-be-husband and talked it over with him.
I loved him deeply, and knew the gravity of my vows (unto death, you and no other). I wasn't approaching marriage as a temporary thing that I could trap-door out of in divorce court if it didn't work out. I wanted to commit my life to one person, forever.
Further, I didn't doubt his ability to make me happy; I was still a very selfish person and doubted my ability to make HIM happy.
Then he said the most romantic thing in the world to me. This strapping giant who never cried, advised me with tears in his eyes and a choked voice; "If I don't marry you, I will never marry. I don't want to spend the rest of my life with anyone but you."
I made a vow in my heart, there and then, to do my utmost to make him as happy as he made me.
I thank God every day that he is in my life, and I tell him everyday how special he is to me.
Maturity doesn't mean running away from your problems and love does not play head games with the person you claim to love. Maturity confronts its problems and love means treating your lover with MORE respect, not less, than anyone else in your life (short of God).
I wouldn't marry her. She is neither mature nor loving, and I would fear that her "run away from it" attitude might spill over to any children we shared if she suddenly decided "motherhood" was no longer her cup of tea.
Nice story, love does work out!!
I think some people talk and are mature. This woman just ran, some run rather than talk. She is immature, everyone who thinks knows this was headed for where she is now. But she didn't think.
I still think that you don't have to be totally grown up to make a marriage if you love someone. You get better with practice. I was a total jerky kid, self centered, childish and so unprepared for marriage,,,and I got better because of the marriage.
This insistance we be completely grown up and without a flaw to enter marriage is resulting in brides in their 30's who are running late on their biological clocks and having to take on men who are 'set' in their ways, brides who are so afraid they aren't "ready" for marriage that it is a pity.
I think great marriages can come from immature, selfish people who get better because they love each other. And flaky girls need husbands, that's a fact. Write it down.
No kidding here, that brings tears to MY eyes. That's beautiful.