Your husband learned some very valuable "life lessons" during his "difficult" time.
He had to work very hard for what he wanted.
How do you expect your children to be prepared for "enough trials and tribulations after college" - if they drive on 'easy street' (Mom and Dad will pay) until after college?
Just MO, but that is not the way my kids are going through college. Mom and Dad will certainly help, but they are going to have to work for it.
Again, just MO.
LVM
I drove on easy street, and I have had to survie trials and tribulations.
When I was a single young woman (23), I moved from Texas to California because my company had work in California not Texas. I would have lost my job in Texas. At that company, I was one of 2 women selected as one of their top 20 employees out of 2000 employees.
My mom suffered a mental breakdown a year later and my dad almost died. It was difficult on all the family.
I suffered through 3 miscarriages, but was finally successful at having a kid. After my first child, I had twins. I survived 2 months of complete bedrest, and did exactly what the doctor ordered so that my twins would not be born early.
Unfortunately, my twin daughters almost died at 6 weeks old from a respiratory illness. One of them has brain damage.
My daughter has done very well considering, and I think that is in large part because of my hard work and dedication.
My husbands hard work early in life did not prepare him for the miscarriages or having a daughter with brain damage. He'll even tell you that. Nothing does. You just have to step up to the plate. We both have done that.