I have tried it in the past, with limited results. I have turned the problem inside and out, and really the only conclusion I can come to is that finding the right person is not entirely within our power. It is rather like walking along the beach and waiting to see what the tide brings in; one must wait for the currents of Fate to bring one to one's beloved. The task in the meantime is to strive to be the best people we can be in every respect possible; so when that tide does wash in, and the right person crosses the threshold, they will recognise you more readily.
Regards, Ivan
A suggestion. Take a month's vacation. Go to Viet Nam. Hang around a smaller town and just walk or sit in the coffee gardens. You will meet mostly young women because the guys are all out working their butts off to make their $1.45 a day. Talk to the ladies who will talk to you, even if it is with the Eng-Vt and Vt-Eng dictionaries you carry in your pocket. Make it explicit that you are not "looking for a woman." Pick out one of the more intelligent ones- there will be few who are dumb- and make a marriage deal. It is complicated and some expense to get her home but you will have a Wife who will not head for the divorce court as soon as she has citizenship and your wealth. She is bright and can probably run a business but she will not presume to run you. You will be the center of her life. And if you need a decoration, well, she is Vietnamese-what more could you ask? Viet Nam has just the right overlay of modern expectations and education on a traditional society. Don't wait too long. This conjunction is fragile and will not last too many more years.
How true. As one who has lost His beloved many years past, I can only affirm that there are indeed only moments when you just have to step back and understand that it is finally time...