Or maybe you can catch more flies with honey then with vinegar.
Maybe the condescending tone in which such ideas are delivered just grates.
Texas Representative Ron Paul has stated that, "American history, a least in part, is a history of people who don't like being told what to do."
Now take that a step further.
Maybe the fundamental failure of libertarianism is its foolish model of reality.
The libertarian believes there was some golden age of rugged individualism that we deviated from. There never was. There was an age in which social services were provided by large extended families so you had small governments. The problem, which libertarians refuse to see, is that you can only have large extended families in traditional, religious cultures. Not the secular individualistic cultures that libertarians want. A secular, individualistic culture will only have two child families and a two child family culture will look to the state for relief in confronting sickness and old age. In a two child family culture there aren't enough hands to do the 24-7 job of looking after Grandma.
To have a 1900 state you have to have a 1900 culture and society.