Any man, regardless of age, who pursues an underage girl in secret and encourages her to sneak and defy her parents is engaging in anti social or sociopathic behavior. It's a pretty good indicator right there that he is "off" and could be dangerous.
Parents should tell their kids to not date people who encourage them to defy and break rules and be secretive, because people who do those things are destined for tragedy one way or another and it is better to not travel their path with them.
Teach your kids to identify pathological people early in life. It only takes basic logic and attention to detail. Fact is parents often focus on teaching their kids to be pleasant, non-judgemental and accepting.
My oldest who is now a perscipacious 17 has gotten wisdom already by realizing that anyone who tells her that her parents "don't get it" is a) lying and b) selling something (i.e. seeking psychological advantage).
It is the first lie Satan told Adam and Eve; "God (your father) doesn't get it, he's depriving you of fun, he's only interested in himself, not your best interest". This great lie has never changed throughout the millennia and is the first lie people tell themselves or others when deciding to engage in behavior they know is wrong.
The fact that this poor girl couldn't predict the disastrous consequences her disobedience doesn't relieve her of the guilt and responsibility for that disobedience.
If we confess our sin, God is faithful and forgives us and cleanses us from unrighteousness. My guess is that her "counselors" will not encourage her to accept and own her part in this tragedy. Instead, it will be the plaint "It's not your fault, you couldn't know or predict such a thing would happen".
Well, I beg to differ, you can predict that the consequences of sin is pain and death. The only thing you can't predict is whether it is going to be immediately and total or cumulative and drawn out over time.
VERY well said.
Yes, very, very well said.
I agree with most of what you say. But I think that God may have some mercy for a 14 year old girl who had no inkling that her boyfriend was going to murder her parents, if that is the case.
Nontheless, this particular girl is going to have to live with the actual consequences of her disobedience, even if she didn't know Ludwig had a gun.
Personally, I would have a hard time forgiving a sister who had, through her (allegedly) flagrant disobedience and bad behavior, put into motion the events which happened here.
If what we've read about her behavior is true, then both the girl and Ludwig had real problems before this crime occurred. I cannot understand how a girl raised in her environment could behave as she did even before the murders took place. Hers was not normal behavior for a teenager, lovesick or not, IMO.
That place where the two had their blogs shocked me. What's worse, my own son mentioned that another kid had told him about the site, and he wanted a blog there. Never! I'm installing Net Nanny or Cybersitter on our computers today.