Acting out can occur? Weasel words. Rationalization. Typical psycho-babble. If you are raised like a slob in a barn, then you act like it. Nothing particularly complex here.
When I was single and rented a house, I left it *better* than it was when I moved in. Anytime something is loaned to me, I return it in as good or better condition. I raised my kid the same way.
Same here. One time in a rental duplex, I went ahead and painted the fence. The manager seemed upset and said that was their job and why didn't I ask. Told him I treated the place like it was my own. On an almost yearly basis, they raised the rents of everyone but us - gotta be a connection.
Same with tools. I quit lending mine because they never came back. "Oh, I lent it to Bob, you can get it from him." They got upset when I said, "No, I lent it to YOU. YOU get it from Bob." We never spoke again.
On the few times I borrowed a shovel or hoe, I alsways cleaned and oiled it before handing it back. Sometimes it went back in better shape than it came. Owner never said a word.