[HitmanLV]

I don't advocate cheating at all. I'm sorry if that wasn't clear.

I don't blame a spouse in the situation you raise for growing alienated from their poor spouse. I don't blame them for rejecting the poor spouse and taking a better romantic companion. Those are, I think, good things and not bad things.

I agree, the tactic of cheating is wrong. The goal of finding a better spouse is a good one, though. So the failure is one of tactics, and not of mandate. In that respect we agree - the tactic stinks.

I'm not listening to the show and am glad to hear infidelity isn't the issue. That being said, that doesn't preclude the possibility of being married to a dreadful person and rejecting them (which I do maintain is a morally defendable thing to do).

I think cheating is awful, but I don't see it as a simple dynamic of one person being good and the other being bad. I have never seen it in any instance of my life that way. I have never cheated, but I have quit on people who I think deserve being quit on.

Trust me, there is nothing wrong with quitting when appropriate.

[Yaelle]

Trust me, there is nothing wrong with quitting when appropriate.

I kind of already said that I agree with you, like in Rush's case. I will not condone adultery but needing to leave a relationship that it harmful to your soul is OK, IF there are no children.

Sadly, if you have kids, you are stuck unless there is something too harmful to endure, like addiction, adultery, or abuse (Dr. Laura is right about at least that).