I've heard the same from other parents, too, including other homeschoolers, who say couples need to spend time alone. I have to admit, I can't remember the last time we actually had a "date" without the kids. I think it was five or six years ago. :-0
The main reason is that we don't want to leave our kids with babysitters, and we live too far away from relatives who can watch them.
How old are your children? We did the same thing until my oldest turned 12. He babysits and we wander around trying to figure out what to do with ourselves. He also calls every half hour asking what we're doing.
We leave wbill jr. with the Grandparents once a week for a few hours. It's 'our' time....even if it's only to do exciting things like getting groceries. And the grandparents loEveryone wins.
But....this selfish hag takes 'me me me' to a whole new level. I've heard the same sort of thing from a couple of my wife's friends and I always want to give them a whack and say "It's not about YOU anymore!". Like the one who didn't take childbirth classes because they "didn't fit into her schedule". Sad, really.
I am exactly the same way. My husband and I go out to dinner a couple times a year when my parents are visiting. Other than that, I call a sitter once in a while to entertain the kids so I can have some time off, but I don't leave the house.
My oldest are nearly 13 and 12, so in a couple years, we should be able to get out together a little more often.