[doc30]

If I were in the search mode, I may look offshore for a wife.

I married a Japanese woman after being miserably married to an American woman. Very different psychology - she, and Japanese women in general, actually want to be feminine. They have not lost the concept of men and women being different, but equal. American women, seem to want to emulate men, not compliment them. She understands I bust my butt at work and do all the heavy, outside labor around the house. My ex-American wife was always of the 'so what, but what did you do for ME today?'

[mikeus_maximus]

I hear ya. I don't know the reason for your first marriage ending, and I take a very close view of Matthew 19. But I will say this-- psychologists have "discovered" that the #1 need for women in a marriage is love. For men, it's respect. We're hard wired for that way.

We marry someone we hope will appreciate and encourage us on the daily hunt. Women who are sefish or fail to understand that maculine need-- and in our culuture most women do fail in that-- cannot hope to have a sound marriage with any man.