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Editorial: You owe them - Court says take care of your elderly parents
Sacramento Bee ^ | 11/27/6 | Editor

Posted on 11/27/2006 7:58:14 AM PST by SmithL

All those baby boomers with aging parents should pay close attention to a recent court decision in California. An appeals court ruling in a nasty divorce in Placer County highlights the little known but significant legal obligation of adult children who, to the extent they are able, should support their indigent parents.

In the case before the appeals court, a divorcing wife disputed her husband's right to deduct from the proceeds of her share of community property the $12,000 he had spent to support his elderly, infirm mother. The wife called the support payments "an unauthorized gift of community funds." The trial court commissioner agreed with her. "You know as well as I do," Placer County Commissioner Colleen M. Nichols said in the opinion, "that you're under no legal obligation to pay for your parent's expenses just as you're under no obligation to pay for your child's expenses once they are over the age of 18."

But in a unanimous ruling that is binding on courts across California unless overturned by the state Supreme Court, the 3rd District Court of Appeal emphatically disagreed with Nichols. "Though not commonly known," Associate Justice Vance Raye wrote for a three-judge panel, "California is one of many states that have enacted filial responsibility laws imposing on adult children obligations akin to those imposed on parents with respect to minor children." With the exception of those circumstances where parents were known to have abandoned a child, the justice noted, "neglect of an indigent parent is punishable as a misdemeanor." Penal Code Section 270c specifically provides that "every adult child who, having the ability so to do, fails to provide necessary food, clothing, shelter or medical attendance for an indigent parent, is guilty of a misdemeanor."

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial; Government; US: California
KEYWORDS: aging; bioethics; boomers; parents; qualityoflife; youreapwhatyousow
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To: SmithL

Get rid of the confiscatory income taxes so that people keep what they earn and can afford to support their aging parents instead of a bloated government, and I "Might" agree with this idiot judge.

Frankly I think the judge should be tarred and feathered and run out of town on a rail.

Idiots


21 posted on 11/27/2006 8:32:57 AM PST by Leatherneck_MT (In a world where Carpenters come back from the dead, ALL things are possible.)
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To: SmithL

Big ol can-o-worms. My first reaction is that while people have a moral obligation to help their parents but I don't want the state imposing the obligation.


22 posted on 11/27/2006 8:36:18 AM PST by DManA
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To: babble-on
Yeah, I got that too. The whole thing shouldn't be an issue for them. He should take of his mother period and leave his x-wife out of the expense. Just sad he brings this up as part of a divorce, as if divorce wasn't bad enough.
23 posted on 11/27/2006 8:40:40 AM PST by poobear (Political Left, continually accusing their foes of what THEY themselves do every day.)
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To: SmithL

The United States of America is the highest taxed nation on earth with the least return in benefits and services per tax dollar.

This case illustrates an emerging movement that is getting more and more press as the baby boomer generation passes into retirement and the governments at all levels forcast an unfunded liabilty in social security and medicare requirements.

This emerging movement can be appropriately termed as "Put the expense of the elderly onto the backs of their children or next of kin".

It sounds absolutely Republican in spirit but only if the movement was accompanied by offsets in government spending and taxation. The latter offsets I predict will never materialize unless there is a revolt.

The movement will happen incrementally so as not to surprise or shock the public. There will be small movements such as retirement age changing from 65 to 67, then 70, then 72 and so on. There will be attempts by Republicans to cut children who care for their parents a tax break, but this tax break will fade as government taxation and spending becomes more and more burdensome.

I predict the demographics will force revolt in year 2019. By then all taxpayers will have heard of and understood the 'Fair Tax' solution. It will pass by then and possibly earlier.

All of this could have been avoided had the government stayed out of socializing the American economic system. Years before the Great Depression it was common for adults to care for their elderly parents or at least for charity groups to care for those without functional families. The idea of personal responsibility and obligation was quite different then.

Instead what we have had for decades is a tax, spend and promise policy that has taxed baby boomers to a rate not seen anywhere else on earth. Now all those tax dollars are lost as the government begins abandoning the promises it made.

Deadbeat government is on the way.


24 posted on 11/27/2006 8:40:53 AM PST by Hostage
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To: SmithL

But yet, a female "parent" has every right to kill her unborn child on demand... under the guise of choice... while the same rights are not granted to the male donor, who is compelled for 18 years or more to be a "parent".

I am sure glad the government is around to clarify all these things for me.


25 posted on 11/27/2006 8:41:09 AM PST by AbeKrieger (Liberals are the Mongol hordes destroying America from within.)
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To: poobear

How much you want to bet the guy's lawyer talked him into it, too? "Hey, that money you need to send your mom? Take it from the joint checking and then your wife covers half of it!" And it worked, too!


26 posted on 11/27/2006 8:44:07 AM PST by babble-on
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To: poobear

"It is a sad state of affairs when society needs a court ruling to obligate people to take care of their elderly parents."

True.





27 posted on 11/27/2006 8:47:45 AM PST by Cedar
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To: babble-on

"Take it from the joint checking and then your wife covers half of it!"

That's about standard procedure in California marriage and divorce laws. The sick part is an ex would actually hold his former spouse to this.


28 posted on 11/27/2006 8:53:36 AM PST by poobear (Political Left, continually accusing their foes of what THEY themselves do every day.)
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To: A. Pole
"What the Ayn Rand crowd has to say?

I was once blasted on an Objectivist forum for revealing that I care for my bed-ridden dad.
29 posted on 11/27/2006 8:56:18 AM PST by LIConFem (Just opened a new seafood restaurant in Great Britain, called "Squid Pro Quid")
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To: LIConFem
I was once blasted on an Objectivist forum for revealing that I care for my bed-ridden dad.

Does anyone has some info on Ayn Rand parents or children?

30 posted on 11/27/2006 8:59:33 AM PST by A. Pole (Russian proverb: "All are not cooks that walk with long knives")
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To: Major Matt Mason
Why do you think the nursing home industry is booming?

1. Because people are living longer with medical conditions that require daily professional care. A few decades ago those same conditions would have killed them.

2. Because families are spread all over the country. Kids grow and relocate to other areas and where there once was several siblings in the same town to help care for an aged parent, now there may only be one, or none.

31 posted on 11/27/2006 9:00:23 AM PST by Ditto
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To: SmithL

What of a parent who has given their child nothing but merry hell for years? I would hate to have my mother find me years from now and expect me to take care of her. I have heard enough of, "I need you" "I'm disowning you" in my adult life so far.


32 posted on 11/27/2006 9:02:05 AM PST by HungarianGypsy
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To: LIConFem

Elder/Childcare is perfectly consistent with objectivism, as long as one is doing it voluntarily.


33 posted on 11/27/2006 9:03:11 AM PST by NativeNewYorker (Freepin' Jew Boy)
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To: A. Pole

Rand's dad was a pharmacist in Czarist Russia. Don't recall what her mom did outside the home. Ayn had no children.


34 posted on 11/27/2006 9:04:59 AM PST by NativeNewYorker (Freepin' Jew Boy)
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To: A. Pole
"Does anyone has some info on Ayn Rand parents or children?"

As far as I know, she left her family in Russia when she came here in 1926. Don't have any info on whether she maintained any kind of relationship with them thereafter.
35 posted on 11/27/2006 9:09:07 AM PST by LIConFem (Just opened a new seafood restaurant in Great Britain, called "Squid Pro Quid")
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To: NativeNewYorker

I agree. The individual who gave me a hard time had apparently had a very rocky relationship with his parents, and insisted on projecting his issues onto me.


36 posted on 11/27/2006 9:10:42 AM PST by LIConFem (Just opened a new seafood restaurant in Great Britain, called "Squid Pro Quid")
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To: babble-on

I think she should have paid half. My late husband did many things for my mom simply because he liked helping her when she needed it. She is 102 now and in a nursing home. Everyone loves her. He died in July.


37 posted on 11/27/2006 9:12:02 AM PST by MamaB (mom to an Angel)
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To: Hostage
The United States of America is the highest taxed nation on earth with the least return in benefits and services per tax dollar.

Though I think we are taxed way too high, what is your proof on this? There are numerous countries with higher taxes than us. Look at virtually all of Europe.

38 posted on 11/27/2006 9:30:40 AM PST by mountn man (The pleasure you get from life, is equal to the attitude you put into it.)
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To: Raymann
But this is an easy question, I'd say that one would have a moral obligation to help out their parents but no duty. certainly not one to be enforced by the law.

Not unless the taxpayers (me, for example) have to pick up the cost for elderly parents (who I don't even know) of particularly selfish adult children (who I don't even know). Then, I'm fine and dandy with it being "enforced by the law", thank you.

39 posted on 11/27/2006 9:37:06 AM PST by Lancey Howard
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To: TruthNtegrity
I don't know one of them that isn't voluntarily helping their parents while still paying college tuition for their kids.

I do. My husband's parents, my parents, my aunts and uncles. You know what help my husband and I received from our parents for college? Nothing, zero, zip, nada. Two years ago my husband and I nearly went bankrupt when we took in my ailing mother and took out a loan to pay off her bills.

Who proceeded to blow $150 of our grocery budget (2 months in a row!) on cookies and ding-dongs and donuts because she didn't like my limitations on such things. Who sniped about my cooking and how I arranged my furniture and how we raised our children. There was a lot more. I still love her, but she is now living with a different relative and will never again live with us. I'll put her in a home first.

And I won't pay for it. Period.

40 posted on 11/27/2006 9:49:35 AM PST by Marie (Smart, educated women make smart, educated children!)
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