[onyx]

When I was very young I did not appreciate the necessity for the "ceremonies of life and death"..Now I do.

I always have, but whether strange or not, I really don't want a funeral for myself.

[Txsleuth]

WOW..we do think alike sometimes.

I have told my husband that I not only don't want a "funeral", but I don't even want an obituary in the newspaper...

He is a VET..and we have a beautiful, new, National Cemetary here...and so that is where he and I will be buried..but, I do not want any ceremony.

[ThePythonicCow]

I really don't want a funeral for myself.

Perhaps funerals are not for oneself. Perhaps they are for those who continue living, to honor the passage of oneself, from present being, to memory and legacy.

Some of this transition must be done in quiet solitude, one person at a time. But some of it also must be done collectively, as a group, by the friends, family, neighbors and colleagues who once knew you as a present being.

Groups of people need their collective habits, customs and rituals, as they go through life's changes, just as do solitary individuals.

Wish well those who would meet in public at your funeral; wish them well in carrying on with life.