I never said anything about the boy being 11. Where I assign responsibility is at age 15. Big difference between the two. Big difference.
I was not kidnapped in the sense these boys were. I was trapped however because it was the baby sitter doing it. Dissimilar but similar at the same time.
Why scream at me about the blame on the man who did this? You cannot post where I have said anything disagreeing with that.
I can gaurantee you one thing, kids can and do learn personal responsibility prior to age 11. Mine know exactly what it is and what it means because I teach it to them. Why do I teach it to them? Simple, because it is my responsibility to do so. If a parent doesn't do so, isn't that their personal responsibility to be used to hold them to account in the form of blame? You bet it is.
Unless your children are gone, out of the house and have children of their own, I don't care how much you teach and preach, you DON'T KNOW what your child would do in the same situation. One thing I have learned over the years is never say never when it comes to raising your kids. I have 3 boys, 16, 15 and 10. I'd like to think I've done a good job so far. Good students, great peer relationships, respectful and they have never given my husband and I really any trouble. Oh, sure they've done some bonehead things, but they are kids. I don't take it for granted for one minute. I've seen wonderful families go through horrendous things with their children, unfortunately, bad things do happen to good people.