He has no say whatsoever and not only that if the child was born he wouldnt have any say in its custody either.
No legal rights whatsoever. Sorry. My only suggestion, if the young woman is absolutely determined on this, is to go to her parents and beg for their help. If she’s NOT absolutely determined, that would probably be the worst possible thing.
A dozen roses and a big fat engagement ring would work wonders.
He should be so sure that this is his baby- maybe she is planning to abort the child to cover up an affair.
The only “rights” he has is to pay child support should she change her mind....
You have mail.
I wrote this back in the 70’s and knew this would happen!
I’ve got a son that never came.
One that flew kites and arrow-planes.
One that danced in the springtime rains.
Don’t know why or who’s to blame.
But I’ve got a son that never came.
Bullfrogs and butterflies he’ll never see.
He’ll stroll through an open field, but not with me.
There was a time his heart beat strong.
It beat with rhythm as in a song.
And to me his love belonged.
Don’t know why or what went wrong.
But there was a time his heart beat strong.
It’s left in my mind and my heart will tease.
There’s no love in my life for my son and me.
Before I had a chance to fight.
They took my son up a flight.
To a room to take his life.
Don’t know why I had no rights.
Before I had a chance to fight.
Then five months early they stole him from his womb.
Laid him in a corner and watched him die in his tomb.
But for one split second I thought I heard him cry...
“I’m gonna have to leave you now. I love you Dad. Goodbye.”
If the girlfriend is motivated by selfishness, which appears to be the case, he could offer to pay her NOT to abort the baby. He could tell her that if she will give birth and sign custody over to him he will pay her, if this is legal. I don’t see why this would be baby-selling because he is the father and would have rights to a newborn baby if not to a fetus. Anyhow, he should check with a lawyer to see if this is possible. But make sure that he pays her after the baby is born and he has custody because she could take the money and turn around and abort anyway.
I recently heard of one case in California (unfortunately, I don’t have the link), where a father successfully went to court on behalf of his unborn baby, and won his right to be a father. Mother was ordered by the court to not abort, and to hand the baby over to its father after birth.
Don’t give up on looking for help on this. There is help for the fathers who are desparate to have rights. They should be able to have them.
You may wish to go look at a father’s rights forum. Google it, you will easily find it.
Good luck, and I wish your friend all of the best.
THIS IS WHY sex education and self control is MORE IMPORTANT FOR THE GUY.
The man has no rights.
A man who is not careful will have to suffer either like your friend, knowing his child was murdered in the womb and he had no right to stop it, or he may have to pay through the nose to support the child from afar. He may not be allowed access to the child, and may be forced into being a “bad parent” by default.
Men have got to think about these things BEFORE they have sex. No orgasm is worth it.
Imagine how the baby feels when neither the mother nor the father wish to keep it alive. At least the father is trying.
Sorry for the father’s grief, but did he not know the character of the woman he impregnated?